Oh, and there’s another piece of me you should probably know—I built a space for women to warn each other. It allows them to speak freely. It also ensures they are finally believed.
I’m the creator of Are We Dating the Same Guy – NWFL Panhandle. It was the very first AWDTSG group launched in the Florida Panhandle. I started the group in August 2022, after waiting and hoping one would appear in our little beach town. These communities were popping up in big cities across the country, and I kept thinking: why not here?
So I stopped waiting. I made it myself.
The reason was simple — but personal. I once dated a man who was emotionally, mentally, and psychologically abusive. For over a decade, I lived in the chaos of his on-again, off-again manipulation. I thought it was just a toxic relationship. It wasn’t until a psychiatrist looked at me and said, “You know that was abuse, right?” that everything changed.
After that, I couldn’t unsee the patterns.
Over time, I had watched him leave a trail of emotional damage—woman after woman. And I kept wondering: if these groups had existed back then, would I have believed the other women? Would I have walked away sooner? If even a few of us had spoken up, I might have recognized the cycle earlier. It might not have taken me ten years.
That “maybe” is why I created the group.
I didn’t want anyone else to feel alone in their confusion, dismissed as “crazy,” or gaslit into silence. I wanted women to know they weren’t imagining things. I wanted men to know they deserved protection too. I created the group for everyone.
Eventually, I connected with a core group of women running similar AWDTSG chapters across the country. We came together as a panel of admins—unifying our rules, aligning our values, and tracking patterns. We weren’t just watching posts; we were watching behavior.
At The Novel Advocate, our mission is clear: Truth without fear. Advocacy without bias.
Victims are genderless. Abuse doesn’t play favorites. It can happen between partners, friends, parents, children—anyone, anywhere. Trauma doesn’t discriminate. And at The Novel Advocate, neither do we.
Every story matters. Every survivor deserves to be heard. We’re here to help you navigate your truth. We focus on reclaiming your power, piece by piece. Tell your story the way it deserves to be told.
You are not invisible here.
In recent years, Are We Dating the Same Guy (AWDTSG) groups have exploded across the country. These communities were built as safe spaces for women to share their dating experiences—both the heartwarming and the heartbreaking. When used with integrity, they become powerful tools for collective safety. They expose patterns and prevent heartbreak. They also warn others before they fall for the same lies.
But power, especially in the wrong hands, can be misused.
What happens when someone weaponizes the platform for personal revenge? What happens when the sacred circle of truth is used as a stage for fiction?
Let me be clear: the purpose behind these groups is noble. But with great power comes great responsibility—and accountability.
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